
I frequently hear the sentiment that men and women can’t “just be friends.” Though I don’t know if this is true, it got me thinking about what men and women can be… Women have a variety of men in their lives and these are just a few of the categories that come to mind.
1. Platonic Friend – This is the guy to whom you are not attracted. And never will be. Ever. There may be no rhyme nor reason to why you don’t feel an attraction to him, but you just know that he will always be like a brother to you. To verify that you feel platonically toward him, you should note if you feel a twinge of envy when he has a girlfriend or an interest in someone. If you’re genuinely happy for him, then feel safe with this relationship. This is rare. Hang onto it.
2. Sexual Tension Friend – This is a common relationship for a man and a woman to fall into. One of my male friends told me that a man won’t be friends “with a chick unless he thinks that he might be able to [sleep with] her” (he shall remain nameless but, as we were friends, I felt a bit uncomfortable… and felt the need to inform him that he should give up all hope of that ever happening). This can be an incredibly fun, flirtatious, and interesting relationship. BUT make sure to maintain the “tension” aspect of this friendship. If the sexual tension becomes a reality fulfilled and no longer a “tension”, you may lose the lighthearted nature of this situation quickly. Luckily, it’s easy to find a man to take over this spot. I think it’s in their nature.
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3. Bad Boy – The bane of our female existence and the thrill of it. This guy could not care less about you. Or at least pretends he could not. He’s only concerned about himself. He has a ridiculously sordid past. Maybe he’s an alcoholic. Maybe he’s a pothead. Maybe he rides a motorcycle and is covered in tattoos. Maybe he has a criminal record. Maybe he is a cheater. Maybe he puts you down/bails on you/disappears to ….Tijuana…. for the weekend. But the relationship is addicting. Or maybe you’re just addicted to the tumultuous nature of your relationship. So you tolerate him. And maybe, just maybe, you’ll be the one he’ll change for. Get real. Move on. He’s a selfish jerk and this whole bad boy thing is working for him right now. He’ll have another girl on the back of his bike tomorrow. Get the bad boy thing out of your system and grow up.
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